Get Your Ex Back By Building Up Trust With Ex

7 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship



Do you know these 7 concrete ways to build trust in a relationship? Often, what
really makes

 a relationship work are not the things we think of first. For instance, do
you think you always

 need to spice things up? Wrong! Predictability is more important than
variety in a relationship.

 The following seven methods are guaranteed to grow your connection by
improving the level

of trust in a relationship.



First, as I mentioned in the opening paragraph, you need to be predictable. This
goes against

 the common notion that you need to “stir things up” to keep the romance
alive. Sure, going to

 a new restaurant or giving a surprise gift can be nice, but most of all,
we need things to be

consistent and steady in order to make our relationships work. Consider that
trust in a relationship

is built on being reliable day in and day out.



Next, you need to make sure that your words always match the message. This means
that your

partner needs to hear the words which match your body language. If you say you
are happy but you

 are frowning, your partner doesn’t hear your words, he or she sees your
face and the tone in your voice.

Your parter needs to be able to trust what you are saying. When the words match
the message, you build

trust in a relationship.



Third, you need to have a fundamental belief in your partner’s competency. If
you don’t you won’t have

the trust in a relationship that you need. When lovingly communicated, the truth
is never destructive.

 When you do not believe that your partner is competent at some things (or
indeed, anything), you

violate the trust in a relationship.



Don’t keep secrets. Secrets destroy the trust in a relationship. Be honest and
open. Assume everything

you know will eventually come out. Secrets require enormous energy on your part.
That is energy that

could be going into building the relationship.



Fifth, don’t be afraid to let your partner know what your needs are. Don’ t make
him or her guess what

you need. Let them know. It is okay to be self-centered as long as you are not
selfish. Indeed, if you

 are reluctant to assert your needs, you may go overboard in the opposite
direction and smother your partner.



Sixth, learn to say no. When your partner voices his or her needs, that is a
good thing. But you don’t

 need to say yes to everything. A partner cannot respect you if you never
say no. Refusing to be

subjugated to the other person’s will actually builds trust in a relationship.



Finally, always pursue growth. When you plant a flower, you begin by digging in
the dirt. Digging

 in the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause pain. But, through
that pain, we prepare the

 soil for future growth. Don’t be afraid of turmoil, crisis, or questions.
These become the fertilizer

for growth and change. Embrace what is difficult.



When you decide to work on trust in a relationship, you are bound to encounter a
little pain.

But, as you work through this pain, you will not only become stronger as an
individual, you will

also strengthen your coupledom.

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Breaking Up Getting Your Ex Back

Ending a Relationship Breaking Up is Hard To Do



Does your to-do list look something like this:



· Walk dog

· Water plants

· Break up with significant other



Okay, while ending a relationship is hardly at the top of anybody’s calendar,
the fact is

that when a relationship has gone sour, someone has to make the move to end it.
The

truth is that many relationships last long beyond the “expire by” date just
because

breaking up is hard to do.



Sometimes a break up happens in dramatic fashion with clothes being thrown out
of a

second story window.



Other times, the relationship just peters out until someone says “it’s caput.”



How do you go about ending a relationship so that neither party gets hurt?



You need to get clear on why you want to terminate the romance. The immediate
reason

that jumps into your mind may not be the real reason. Once you get clear, the
next step

in ending a relationship is to get honest. That means that in your discussion
with your

partner that you are true to yourself and to them.



Schedule a mutually convenient time for the breakup. In general, it is better to
do it

in person rather than over the phone, but if distance is an issue in the
relationship,

you should do it sooner than wait for a time you can get together.



Get into a state of compassion when ending the relationship. If you want to stay
friends

after the break up, you need to conclude the romantic ties with love and
compassion.



Don’t put your partner on the defensive. Talk about the things you’ve learned
and the

memories you will cherish that have come from your love. Be present during the
break up.

Your partner may become very emotional during this time. You need to respond to
their

needs.



Don’t take anything personally when ending a relationship. Your partner may say
things

they don’t really mean. Let these words roll off of your back.



Your partner may need to meet with you more than once to conclude the
relationship. Or,

they may need space. Give your ex what they need to get through the transition
time.



But don’t let them make you feel guilty. You’re ready to begin a new phase in
your life

and it will not include a romantic relationship with your ex. It is best if you
retain a

positive relationship of some sort with them, but if you are ending the
relationship for

the right reasons, it is best for both of you.



Should you ever consider reconnecting? Does ending a relationship always mean
“the end,

close the book?”



That is something you have to decide. Virtually all relationships can be saved
if

certain conditions are met. If you have the time and are willing to make the
effort, you

can get through this period as an even stronger couple.



However, if you are determined to walk away, it’s best to end a relationship
with a clean

break and move on.

 

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